Women who have experienced this can recognize that placating these men is a rational choice, a form of self-defense to protect against setting off an aggressor. But to male bystanders, it often looks like a warm welcome, and that helps to shift blame in the public eye from the harasser and onto his target, who’s failed to respond with the type of ‘leave me alone’ masculine bravado that men more easily recognize.
BOOOM. Read this if you are a dude, please.
.. I can’t count the times I’ve been nice and welcoming to someone I really didn’t want to talk to, just because I was afraid they’d turn violent and find me after. People, take note of this. It’s an attempt to save our own ass, until we can make a safe exit.
Sometimes body modification is just a way of telling yourself “this is still my house, I paint the walls and and I hang the art because I’m the one who owns it”