scruples:

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These are forms of male aggression that only women see. But even when men are afforded a front seat to harassment, they don’t always have the correct vantage point for recognizing the subtlety of its operation. Four years before the murders, I was sitting in a bar in Washington, D.C. with a male friend. Another young woman was alone at the bar when an older man scooted next to her. He was aggressive, wasted, and sitting too close, but she smiled curtly at his ramblings and laughed softly at his jokes as she patiently downed her drink. ‘Why is she humoring him?’ my friend asked me. ‘You would never do that.’ I was too embarrassed to say: ‘Because he looks scary’ and ‘I do it all the time.’

Women who have experienced this can recognize that placating these men is a rational choice, a form of self-defense to protect against setting off an aggressor. But to male bystanders, it often looks like a warm welcome, and that helps to shift blame in the public eye from the harasser and onto his target, who’s failed to respond with the type of ‘leave me alone’ masculine bravado that men more easily recognize.

Why it’s so hard for men to see misogyny (via ethiopienne)

BOOOM.  Read this if you are a dude, please.

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Yesssssss.

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.. I can’t count the times I’ve been nice and welcoming to someone I really didn’t want to talk to, just because I was afraid they’d turn violent and find me after. People, take note of this. It’s an attempt to save our own ass, until we can make a safe exit.

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staydhope:

photo by me.
chasingthatdressagetest:

flying—changes:

I really like this :3
worldes:

Our endless winter by Kate_Toluzakova on Flickr.

rosalarian:

coelasquid:

Sometimes body modification is just a way of telling yourself “this is still my house, I paint the walls and and I hang the art because I’m the one who owns it”

Hell yes.

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tittily:

cant get authentic italian cuisine like this anymore